Thursday, December 1, 2011

Kegels may not be good for you.

In our prenatal exercise section, we recommend doing Kegels because we were told they are good for you. Florence took the Bradley Childbirth classes many years ago and Kegels were highly recommended.

We came across an article which says Kegels may actually not be good for you!

We are reprinting this article with permission.





Not too many of us want to talk about this, although we might with our closest training partners, especially if say, one of them makes us laugh in Boot Camp while doing burpees or during a run. “Stop it!” You might cry, “I just peed in my pants!” There’s that dribble from urge incontinence (there, I said it) from a cough or sneeze that comes out of nowhere and then the continuum of unpleasantness goes on from there. I know women who’ve had to slip a pad into their shorts in the transition area of a duathlon before running. I know runners who no longer run because the leaking is so bad. I find that unacceptable. And if you’re having problems–anywhere on that continuum–so should you.

I’ve written a lot about pelvic floor health in the last year and have learned a great deal. First and foremost: It’s not really your bladder’s fault, it’s a weak pelvic floor. And while pregnancy and birth can certainly compromise that tiny area of muscles between our pubic bone and tail bone that essentially hold up all of our organs (is that all?), that weakness can (and most often does) effect everyone eventually, even men, because yes they too have a pelvic floor.

Here’s a run down of the most eye-opening pelvic floor facts I’ve learned from two people who have studied the pelvic floor extensively. This is the information that can mean the difference between wet and dry running shorts, and for some working out again with confidence.

1. The Pelvic Floor needs to be stretched and strong. When I interviewed biomechanical scientist Katy Bowman last year she blew me away with the very obvious:

One of the biggest misnomers is that tight muscles are “strong” and loose muscles are “weak.” In actuality, the strongest muscle is one that is the perfect length – you need Pelvic Floor Goldilocks – it’s juuuuuust right. The Kegel keeps making the PF tighter and tighter (and weaker and weaker). The short term benefits are masking the long term detriments. Ditch the kegels and add two to three squat sessions throughout the day (anywhere). The glutes strengthen and as a result, they pull the sacrum back, stretching the PF from a hammock to a trampoline. Viola!

And because that seemed so incongruous to so many people I interviewed Katy again to get a “say what?” on that:

The muscle tissue in your PF is the same as the muscle tissue in your biceps. When you’re done realllly working your biceps, you’d like your arm to go back to its original length, right? What if, when you were done doing your curls, your elbows stayed as bent as they were when your muscles were the TIGHTEST? If you equate strong with tight, then you’d have “strong,” contracted arms with bent elbows all the time. Tight muscles. Unusable arms. That’s not what TONE is. Tone is having the MOST strength and the MOST length.

2. A flat butt indicates a person has a weak pelvic floor (and likely pees when sneezing). This is why squats are the new kegel. Again, I bring you Ms. Bowman:

The muscles that balance out the anterior pull on the sacrum are the glutes. A lack of glutes (having no butt) is what makes this group so much more susceptible to PFD. Zero lumbar curvature (missing the little curve at the small of the back) is the most telling sign that the PF is beginning to weaken. Deep, regular squats (pictured in hunter-gathering mama) create the posterior pull on the sacrum. Peeing like this in the shower is a great daily practice, as is relaxing the PF muscles to make sure that you’re not squeezing the bathroom muscle closers too tight.

3. That hip, knee, foot, or back problem might really be a pelvic floor problem. The biomechanics lessons from Katy provide endless insight to the the many connections involved with our health. In the case of the pelvic floor, lots of important body parts connect to it: abs, glutes, hip flexors. If these supporting muscles aren’t strong enough our pelvic floor suffers; likewise, calling on these muscles to do the work of weaker muscles will trigger new problems. Katy posted four fast fixes for pelvic floor disorder on her blog. One of them: Not using the treadmill. I am so down with that!

4. In a well-aligned muscle-balanced body, kegels would not be necessary. Yup, if all of our muscles maintained their ideal strength and length so that our alignment kept our body in good working form, then there would be no need to “spot train” problem areas. And if you do need to “spot train,” understand that more than your pelvic floor is compromised (see #3 above). In another post by Katy (more prolific about the pelvic floor than I) she says:

PFD is a sign that your entire body is collapsing, from the inside-down. While the sneeze-pee and organ prolapse may seem like a huge deal it is nothing compared to the neurological damage to the spine, nerves, and tissues that those nerves supply (especially the nerves running to the lower legs.) The kegel is a drop in the bucket to what someone with PFD needs to do to heal all their structures. PFD is a whole-body situation and for optimal, whole-body outcome, the body has to be treated holistically. Otherwise it’s like putting a new roof on a termite-ridden frame.

5. A kegel is a two-part process, not just a contraction. Since most of us aren’t perfectly balanced and aligned, we still need to know how to do a kegel but only if they’re done correctly. Doing them incorrectly is only going to exacerbate pelvic floor disorder. And no matter what, you still need to be able to engage your pelvic floor. Guess what? A Kegel is more than a contraction. The next step is to relax the pelvic floor so as to lengthen it (see #1 above). The Kegel Queen emphasizes the relaxation step in her program and why she insists you can’t do kegels anywhere, like while we’re driving, as we’re often told.

6. If you can totally relax your pelvic floor you can completely relax your body. The ability to completely relax your pelvic floor allows you to completely relax your body. Can you do this pelvic floor party trick?

7. Doing two kegels is good, but doing 200 is NOT better. Both Katy Bowman and the Kegel Queen agree that too many equates to a too-tight pelvic floor. Katy points out that a too-tight pelvic floor can pull the sacrum out of alignment (hello back pain!) and the Kegel Queen explained it to me in a recent interview in terms I can understand as a fit mom:

Kegels work by increasing your control of the pelvic floor muscles, and by building mass and tone in the pelvic floor. How would you build mass and tone in any other muscle in your body? As anyone who does weight training knows, you’d do a small number of strong, sustained reps. Not 200 “quick flicks,” or 200 anything! Your pelvic floor is no different.

8. Even if your pelvic floor is in good shape, even if you’ve had corrective surgery, you still need to maintain pelvic floor strength. This is forever people. It’s like strength training any muscle. Once you feel like you’re in a good place you can’t just stop. This applies to all fitness, so of course it applies to pelvic floor fitness. Even my pelvic floor expert, Katy Bowman, discovered she needed to get back in touch with her pelvic floor after the birth of her baby (she’s human!)

I know that’s a lot of links. All that in one post is, “Everything Kara Learned About the Pelvic Floor That She Wants Every Fit Mom to Know.” So please share it with your sweaty sisters at your next workout. No one needs to worry about what will happen while running or laughing. And if you’re working out with your sweaty sisters you need to do both at the same time.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

In And Out, That’s What It’s All About

You and a friend are going for a walk, chatting as you stroll along. A while down the road you think you’re ready to head back but she says “no, let’s go farther, and let’s jog a bit.”

So you continue on.

A bit farther down the road your side is cramping and your lungs start to ache. “I want to stop” you mumble. But your friend takes your hand and tugs you along even faster. You can no longer see your house, and you see no end to the trail you’re on.

She is now dragging you along at a rapid pace. Your lungs are screaming for air, your heart racing, panic in your eyes as you realize you are far less prepared for this than your eager friend…

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It's silly to think anyone would take off for a long run without preparation, and yet many moms go into labor not knowing how to pace themselves, breathe or handle the exertion that labor will require.




So just how are you supposed to practice breathing; something that you don’t typically give a second thought to?

Try this:

If you can, close your eyes, if not, that's okay, practice anyway!
Take a deep breath in your nose, fully extending your diaphragm. If you extend your belly so you look 12 months pregnant, you’re doing it right! As you slowly inhale, focus on relaxing those facial muscles, you know, the ones giving you wrinkles! Relax your forehead, eyebrows, jaw, and lips.

Now exhale slowly through your mouth, keeping your face relaxed and focusing on relaxing your shoulders, arms, hips, thighs, toes and everything in between!

Exhale completely and pause until your body requests more air. Slowly inhale again. Focus your thoughts only on your breathing and on relaxing your body. Repeat this pattern about 10 times. It’s ok to make deep sighs or moan-like sounds on your exhale.

If you want to verify the calming and distracting effects of relaxed breathing, do this little test:
Have your labor partner time this for you and in the second step he can breathe with you and give you verbal reminders to relax.

Step one: For one minute hold an ice cube in your hand. Look at your hand, think about how it feels.

Step two: Hold ice in the other hand for a minute, but this time close your eyes and do the breathing and focus on relaxation and your breathing pattern.

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Just as a runner understands the value of stretching before a race, you should understand the value of deep relaxation breathing in labor:





* More oxygen is delivered to your baby; helping to keep her heartrate stable.

* More oxygen delivered to your muscles. With well oxygenated muscles, (uterine muscles specifically) pain in contractions can be reduced.

* Breathing in this pattern is soothing and calming. It will follow the rhythm of labor, increasing in intensity as labor does, but continuing to sooth and oxygenate.

* It can be distracting. Focusing on your breath and your muscles relaxing over all your body keeps your mind busy.

* It may help regulate your heart rate and blood pressure by keeping your body and mind in a calm state.

* It can reduce or prevent the fear-tension-pain cycle.
EEK! There’s that P word! Yes, I said it: pain. Did that word trigger some fear or anxiety? Did you feel your body tense, perhaps your eyebrows furrowed a bit or your jaw clamped shut? You’re not alone!

Childbirth and all the many decisions leading up to labor and delivery can trigger stress and anxiety. Each moment of stress is a perfect opportunity to practice your deep relaxation breathing.

If every time you begin to have fear or anxiety, you “go to” your breathing, your mind will become occupied with breathing and relaxing, thus pushing the negative thoughts aside and clearing your mind of them. When you finish breathing, only allow positive thoughts. Refuse to let negativity and fear settle into your mind. Replace them with breathing and positive phrases such as “my body knows what to do” “labor is a productive process” “labor is not an illness and my body will not do to itself what I cannot handle.”

(note* some fears need to be addressed or are a result of prior trauma, birth or otherwise, please address this with an experienced birth professional who understands the fear-tension-pain cycle.)

By training your mind and body to respond to stress, fear or anxiety with deep relaxation breathing, you will be ready for labor. You will respond to each sensation and rush of adrenaline with calming breaths. Start training now, the race is coming!

Shannon Santamaria ~ Doula
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Monday, October 24, 2011

Doppler Danger

If you are pregnant, you should be made aware that ultrasound technology has not proven to be safe and a lot of research says that it may actually be quite harmful.



When we say ultrasound technology, we do not only mean the scan that you can have to "see" your baby and that some doctors seem to do every time in their office...we also mean the device called a doppler which is use to listen to your baby's heartbeat.



This article was reprinted with the permission of "doppler danger."

These are a few of the articles I have posted on Doppler Danger....more to come

* Don't stop researching when you find the answers you want.

* Please remember that there is absolutely no ethical way to PROVE that ultrasound, including dopplers, is safe for the unborn and there will be no funding for studies to prove that this cash cow is dangerous.

* Study the many ways this technology is applied, connect the dots. HOWEVER, Just based on how they respond to it, we need to stop shooting sound waves at babies

Just to be completely honest.... I had one ultrasound with one of my babies and cried the whole time....she kept turning her face right and left trying to get away from it but she was trapped. That experience made me more determined than ever to research this topic and share what I find. (I also used a doppler on her several times....she is by far the shortest of my children...none of the rest had any ultrasound exposure.)

Please share this note with your friends....if the actual data that is damning concerning babies doesn't change their minds....maybe just reading about the other uses of the technology would help them connect the dots..it cleans rust off of pipes, it kills sperm, it heats muscles, it changes the migratory patterns of whales........IF more mothers are stroking during pregnancy, birth and right after....could it be connected to the ultrasound breaking up clots as one of my brilliant students pointed out today?

We need to take this seriously and not brush it off as another "birth choice".....if there is potential to harm babies that outweighs the potential to help babies, should it be considered a choice? If the potential to help outweighs the potential to harm (and how the heck would we ever actually know that since we can neither predict or measure the potential harm to any individual baby at any given moment) then it would be appropriate use of technology but even then should be used only by those with calibrated machines under strict guidelines based on actual data....in other words uncalibrated dopplers would NOT be considered safe....under any circumstances....ever dropped the bag the doppler is in? there goes the calibration....Start with these, and if you find more you think I should add to the list, please let me know. Babies are worth our best efforts....really.

Doppler danger research:

http://feminine-earth.com/questionable_safety_of_prenatal_ultrasound.pdf
http://www.livestrong.com/article/136464-fetal-ultrasound-risks/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YfaUQCp6L1s&feature=youtu.be
http://www.nibib.nih.gov/HealthEdu/eAdvances/30Apr10
http://www.primalhealthresearch.com/search.php (several here)
http://www.pnas.org/content/103/34/12903.fullhttp://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC522144/
http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2001/12/19/ultrasound.aspx?aid=CD945
http://www.facebook.com/notes/ana-sola/can-a-single-musical-note-repair-your-dna/1015027046483012
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0816/is_2_23/ai_n19328634/
http://www.chem-tox.com/pregnancy/ultrasound.htm
http://douglassreport.com/2004/05/28/negative-effects-of-ultra-sounds/
http://www.slate.com/id/2131574
http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/youropinions.php?opinionid=5239
http://www.aamishop.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=8&products_id=115
http://aamishop.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=8&products_id=155
http://www.ehow.com/about_5347776_dangers-fetal-doppler.html
http://midwiferytoday.com/articles/ultrasoundrodgers.asp
http://www.midwiferytoday.com/articles/ultrasound.asp
http://www.jultrasoundmed.org/
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/08/100817161100.htm
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1364783/Ultrasound-scans-linked-to-brain-damage-in-babies.html
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=190088292561&id=100000311853481&ref=share
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=190088292561
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=327078&id=100000311853481&ref=fbx_album
http://www.plus-size-pregnancy.org/Prenatal%20Testing/prenataltest-ultrasoundsafety.htm
http://www.themidwifenextdoor.com/?p=410
http://www.squidoo.com/noultrasound
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mZDinmnt60s
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/03/100315103808.htm
http://www.birth.com.au/Ultrasounds/Physical-effects-and-research.aspx?p=1
http://www.naturalnews.com/028853_ultrasound_fetus.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YfaUQCp6L1s
http://www.kindredcommunity.com/articles/ultrasound-scans-cause-for-concern/p/1279
http://www.greenhealthwatch.com/newsstories/newslatest/latest0701/ultrasound-hurt.html
http://authenticmidwiferyeducationfromaami.blogspot.com/2009/09/high-tech-midwifery-i-wrote-for.html
http://www.ob-ultrasound.net/history1.html
http://www.planetc1.com/cgi-bin/n/v.cgi?c=1&id=1155156248
http://www.aims.org.uk/Journal/Vol11No4/ultra2.htm
http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.aims.org.uk%2FJournal%2FVol17No1%2Fultrasound.htm&h=49108
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/uog.6381/abstract
http://icpa4kids.org/research/pregnancy/ultrasound.htm
http://chem-tox.com/pregnancy/ultrasound.htm
http://www.articlesnatch.com/Article/Is-Pregnancy-Ultrasound-Risky-/56304
http://educate-yourself.org/cn/2001/ultrasoundandbraindamage19dec01.shtml
http://www.birth.com.au/Ultrasounds/Physical-effects-and-research.aspx?p=1
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=136084462561&id=100000311853481&ref=share
http://www.joyousbirth.info/forums/showthread.php?t=71
http://www.unhinderedliving.com/pultra.html
http://cnx.org/content/m16192/latest/
http://www.facebook.com/posted.php?id=100000311853481&start=100&hash=4f61283458b3f1f602c7d80b34c3829d
http://www.brooksidepress.org/Products/Military_OBGYN/Ultrasound/2ndand3rdTrimesterUltrasoundScanning.htm
http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Ultrasound+safety+and+collapsing+bubbles.-a04600240
http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Ultrasound+in+pregnancy.-a0223286198
http://www.scienceblog.com/community/older/2001/D/200114632.html
http://www.everyday-wisdom.com/dangers-of-ultrasound.html
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0816/is_2_23/ai_n19328634/
https://www.asrt.org/content/News/IndustryNewsBriefs/Sono/studyshows062408.aspx
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=25545&id=100000311853481&ref=fbx_album
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=188616677561&id=100000311853481&ref=share
http://showdogsupersite.com/kenlclub/breedvet/doppler.html
http://www.compleatmother.com/ultrasound_danger.htm
http://www.drbenkim.com/articles-ultrasound-pregnancy.html
http://consumercide.com/health/preg_ultra_uhl.html
http://www.alternamoms.com/ultrasound.html
http://consumercide.com/health/preg_ultra_edyo.html
http://www.prohealth.com/autism/blog/boardDetail.cfm?id=27
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=187152516598&id=661010165&ref=share
http://www.phulson.ca/ptl/ultrasonic/img003.html
http://www.autismspeaks.org/science/science_news/ultrasound.php
http://www.naturalnews.com/025396.html
http://www.bigbaby.org.uk/are_estimates_of_weight_accurate.html
http://www.lamaze.org/OnlineCommunity/AskanExpert/tabid/363/aff/12/aft/19097/afv/topic/Default.aspx
http://fullmoonsdaughter.com/blog/category/ultrasound/
http://www.leaderu.com/ftissues/ft9304/articles/kristol.html
http://radiology.rsna.org/content/131/1/177.short
http://www.sarahbuckley.com/ultrasound-scans-cause-for-concern/
http://www.aimsusa.org/ultrasnd.htm
http://www.midwiferytoday.com/articles/ultrasoundwagner.asp
http://www.dangerousdecibels.org
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sonic_weapon
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ultrasound#Ability_to_hear_ultrasound
read Anne Frye's opinion on the topic in Holistic Midwifery
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC522144/
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12918863
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15296367

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Parents Lead by Example



‎"One of the most important things a father can do for his children is to love their mother." ~ Theodore Hesburgh.


I take my role as "loving my wife as Christ loves the church" very seriously! I also realize that my children are watching how I treat their Mother! I believe the best thing you can do for your children is to train them up in Christ (the way they should go) and one of the ways to do that is in the way they see me with their Mom!

Most days when I come home, my son is normally with my wife. It never fails when I give my wife a kiss, my son then gives her a kiss too! Why?

Because he's doing what he SEES Daddy doing!

One night while our daughters were already asleep, I was calling my wife from another part of the house and I said, "Honey, could you come here please". Our son walked down the hallway a few minutes later saying, "Huunneey, com heere pleeeze"!

As cute as he sounded, that was still another reminder for me that our children will do what they SEE us do as well as TALK the way they HEAR us talk!

If you are married, it is very important how you are with your husband/wife while your children are around. If you take your marital role seriously, then you will be mindful of how you are towards your spouse whether your children are around or not! But it's so important to remember when your children are around, you and your spouse are BOTH teaching them how to be in a GODLY marriage!

So answer these questions, what do they see and what do they hear when it comes to how you treat your spouse?

Wives what are you teaching your daughters and husbands what are you teaching your sons?

Are you teaching them to argue, to be condescending, to be disrespectful toward each other?

Or are you teaching them to talk to each other with respect, in love, and in a loving tone?

Some things to think about huh?

Examine yourselves today.

And if you are single raising children, remember, the way you interact with others when your child is around, is normally the way they will interact with others! We are our children's first teachers!...Remember that!




This article was written by Pastor Vance. You can like their page on Facebook at Truly Faithful.





At Natural Motherhood, we believe that a way to lay a strong parenting foundation is through attachment parenting. Attachment parenting advocates responsive parenting with some practices such as babywearing and co-sleeping.

Friday, July 1, 2011

UNITY, DIVERSITY, DIVISION & IDENTIFICATION

You know, I would probably not ever bring up the topic of UNITY of midwives on my own. It is complicated and I am convinced it is pretty much implausible. But, on an increasingly frequent basis I am being told that I am dividing midwives and that my rhetoric is creating an "us/them" mentality. I am admonished to join with others who are "working for unity among midwives" and I have been pronounced guilty of wide spread alienation.



And there are those in my camp who think that unity is the answer. "If we could just unify....if we could all come together." "If... if.... if...." I love them, and I understand what they are wishing for.....but I think longing for unity is pretty much a waste of time. That being said, this is attempt #1,001 to explain my take on the complexities of unity.








UNITY & DIVERSITY, DIVISION & IDENTIFICATION


I wrote an article on unity and diversity for my students a long time ago.




I pointed out in that original article that diversity is a great thing. In context, our relationship to that word is actually one of the two major impediments to unity among midwives. First, we serve a diverse group of women. Accommodating diversity is what we do.




At the time that I wrote that original article, the majority of midwives recognized the value of serving autonomously. Most acknowledged the conundrum of attempting to unify such a diverse group who serve such a diverse population.




They understood that a bit of caution might be warranted concerning the pursuit of unity. Unity might come at the high cost of wholesale homogenization of a service that really should be personalized to meet the needs of the individual client.




Unity was a passion for some, but I don't remember "unity" being used as a pointy finger to disparage anyone who has a dissenting opinion, as it is today.




My original article proposed the more loosely articulated goal of being unified in our desire to serve autonomously. Autonomous practice is the only way to honor the diversity of our clientele. Serving families in their own unique situations, with their own individual needs, is actually a benchmark of midwifery, isn't it?




The second impediment is that, in reality, unity of any large group, is pretty much impossible. No matter how much we might long for the Kumbaya idea of unity for midwifery, in real life, unity is pretty rare. Here's why: unity requires that all who were previously in disagreement, acquiesce to only one desire. It is the changing of our desires that is the hold up. That is what prevents us from glomming onto a singular philosophy or goal for any period of time. It is DESIRE that determines where we stand. I will explain that in a minute.



Before we argue for unity, maybe we should give some thought to how we define it. Is it "all for one and one for all?" I don't think so. The cry for unity is usually code for "Shut up and come over to our side." or "Stop disagreeing with me." .... or "Don't make me come up with an argument. I am comfortable here in my little bubble." It is rarely a meeting in the middle. When it comes to parents' rights, I am not sure that it is possible to define "middle," and frankly, we don't have time to look for it. Parents' rights are diminishing as we speak, and those who are demanding that I work for unity, are responsible for a large part of that tragedy.



And you have probably noticed that those who are telling me to UNIFY are NOT volunteering to do so with me, rather, the instruction is for me to unify with them and to stop causing trouble.



Believe it or not, I don't intentionally cause trouble, but it seems to be a by-product of telling the truth* and encouraging others to do the same. Admittedly, I am pretty vocal in my challenge for people to do the research and then take a stand. I won't deny that. But, I really find it incredulous that I would have to point out that I did not create any division. Division was here long before I was. In fact there is division within the divisions. But hasn't there always been? And actually, I want to propose that division is a GOOD thing when it means that I step away from what I don't like and stand for what I DO like. Right?



And I am not just talking about midwifery; division is part of the human condition.



Divisions are inevitable because:



WE SORT OURSELVES INTO GROUPS BASED ON WHAT WE WANT!



For most of my life, I had it out of order: I thought that I wanted something different because I believe something different. Now I am convinced that beliefs are more likely to be predicated on wants, rather than the other way around. I WANT something different for parents, AND for midwifery, than the majority does, apparently. Since I want something different, my beliefs are born from my wants. Therefore, my rhetoric and my actions and my alignments are all determined by what I want. Identification and alignment with those who want what I want is logical. So, it is only common sense that I would distance myself from any group that wants something I don't want. I will not be investing my time or resources into support of any organization that doesn't want what I want. In that context, division is necessary, isn't it?



WE SORT OURSELVES INTO GROUPS BASED ON WHAT WE WANT AND WE SORT OURSELVES INTO GROUPS BASED ON WHO WE WANT IT FOR!



The group with whom we choose to identify will be determined by not only WHAT we want, but by WHO we want it for. For me, it is absolutely, positively, unequivocably about WHO is served: the mamma, the baby, the family. I want mothers to know the truth* about birth, and for them to be served by people who know the truth* about birth.


I want:


• parents to own birth and I don't want their choices to be made for them. I don't want ACOG, ACNM, AMA, MEAC, NARM, MANA, The Big Push, or any other group making decisions on their behalf or creating laws that disenfranchise them.


• every individual woman to make her own birthing DECISIONS (not assumptions) based on TRUTH (not lies, gossip or birthfright.)


• widespread acknowledgment of the sovereignty of parents to decide where and with whom they birth.


• every woman to be able to make all the decisions about her birth and her baby without having to stomp her foot or raise her fist, demanding the right to do so. No woman should have to fight to experience the biological function of birth where and with whom SHE chooses.


I am very clear about what I want, so why on earth would I relinquish what I want for the sake of unity?


Unity is NOT my end goal, and frankly never has been. My goal is to tell the truth* to as many people as I can, for as long as I can......and then hope that my efforts, and those of people who want what I want, effect something positive for birthing families.


So I am back where I started with this: In order for authentic midwifery to survive, the desire for unity must be trumped by the desire to serve individual women, autonomously.



Unity for the sake of unity could be, actually probably always is, counterproductive. What will be lost for our grandchildren if unity is seen as paramount to the rights of individual midwives to serve individual parents?


And ultimately, I want to encourage every person reading this to consider carefully who you stand with, what you stand for, and who you stand for. Don't be afraid to be identified with a principle, or a purpose or a cause. If you can't stand with a group on principle, work toward the purpose or support the cause, join a different group. If you feel like sneaking out the back door when standing with your group is not popular, then you should find another group to stand with.....a group who wants the same things you want, for the same people you want it for. There is real
integrity in that.


* The truth about birth is that it is a normal function of biology. Pregnancy is not an illness, birth is not an emergency, and laboring mothers are not patients. Birth is safer when left alone. Childbirth is not the domain of medicine, or midwifery. It belongs to the woman giving birth.





















There is a line in the sand. I didn't create it, but as soon as I saw it, I chose a side and stood there, and now I stand and stand and stand. Admittedly, "my side" is the minority. There are not so many of us, but I can pretty safely assert here that we are not about to stop wanting what we want for parents and babies, in exchange for what the majority of midwives want for themselves.







Carla Hartley is a friend, a midwife, a defender of mammas and birth...she is also the owners of Ancient Art Midwifery Institute and the founder of Trust Birth.


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Friday, February 25, 2011

Breastfeeding and Society

The Bloodhound Gang's 2000 album title says it all: Hooray for Boobies! As a mother who nursed her son for two and a half years, I know just how amazing the breast can be. Everyone has heard that "Breast is Best" -- its even written all over the formula cans, yet the breastfeeding rates in our country are still ridiculously low. I'm going to discuss society's impact on breastfeeding, why formula companies should be considered big business and what we can do to ensure that our friends and family members who choose to nurse remain successful.

If breastmilk is so great, why don't more mothers nurse? It seems like every mother should want the best for her children, yet according to the Nutrition Examination Survey published by the CDC in April 2008, only 33% of infants are exclusively breastfed at three months and a mere 17% of those babies were still nursing at 6 months.

When split into socioeconomic categories, the FDA's Infant Feeding Practices Study conducted in 2007 found that the breastfeeding rates for women eligible for WIC are much lower than those not on the program. Only 34% of WIC mothers are still nursing at 6 months compared to 67% of higher income mothers.

To me, the reason for this is clear: WIC provides free formula coupons and when the benefit of saving $1,500 in formula costs during the baby's first year becomes moot, the motivation to continue to nurse diminishes. But why? Well the answer for that lies with our society as a whole.

According to the Surgeon General's Call to Action to Support Breastfeeding, published on January 20, 2011, Surgeon General Regina Benjamin writes that in America, breasts have often been regarded primarily as sexual objects, while their nurturing function is downplayed. The perception of breasts as sexual objects have led women to become uncomfortable with breastfeeding in public and feeling the need to conceal breastfeeding has caused women to choose to supplement or stop nursing altogether.



Miranda Kerr, Victoria's Secret model and wife to Orlando Bloom, posted this picture on her personal blog at Koraorganics.com on January 18, 2011 to introduce their new baby boy.





Some of the comments were shocking. While many posted with congratulations and support, there were others who felt the photo was inappropriate. One user in particular called "Tiffany" wrote: "This is not a photo for the public. This is no different than a woman having sex in public for everyone to see... Absolutely disgusting."

Yet...

The July '09 issue of Rolling Stone featured Kerr on the cover... completely nude. No one threw a fit about that.

Heidi Klum shows us that we can't sell a pair of jeans without a topless woman.


And apparently we can't market cell phones without showing skin either.





No one in America is flipping out over these images, but



This is considered obscene??





Companies know that sex sells and formula companies use this to their advantage by doing the opposite. Their advertisements show either the baby alone or they portray the wholesome mother: completely covered and using bottles to feed their babies. This is only one of many formula marketing ploys.

Interestingly, the United States is the only country in the United Nations which allows formula companies to market at all. Leave it to the American Dream and free enterprise to give these corporations the opportunity to destroy breastfeeding relationships all in the name of profit. Don't believe me? Mead Johnson, the company that makes Enfamil Infant formula, posted 4th quarter 2010 profits equalling 99.6 million dollars. According to ABC news, when the Department of Health and Human Services wanted to publish a series of commercials promoting breastfeeding back in 2004, all three formula companies (Nestle, Mead Johnson and Abbott) filed personal grievances during a private meeting with HHS Secretary Tommy Thompson -- a meeting that pro-breastfeeding groups were excluded from. The result? The DHHS ditched the ads. I wonder how much political campaign money was offered to get them to change their mind? It was an election year, after all.

When my son was 5 weeks old, and again at 12 weeks, I recieved packages in the mail from Similac which contained 6 full cans of powdered formula. The company knew exactly what they were doing here -- they weren't trying to be generous and the timing was not at all random.

Kellymom.com, a website written by a lactation consultant, states that during a growth spurt, breastfed babies nurse more often than usual (sometimes as often as every hour), they are fussier than normal and have more trouble sleeping. Six weeks and four months are the two most common periods of doubt for the breastfeeding mother. Due to lack of information, they begin to fear that they are no longer producing enough milk since their baby is always hungry and their breasts no longer feel full. By sending free formula during these time periods, the moms may be more tempted to "try" a bottle, which then leads to two bottles, and then to three and the next thing you know, mom is relying heavily on formula if not weaning the baby completely and is then giving 50 to 60 dollars per week to the formula companies.

Now that you've seen society's take on nursing and you've been made aware of the fact that the formula companies are much more interested in money than in the health of your baby, you can see just how important a strong support system is for the breastfeeding mother. With formula being shoved down our throats and strangers feeling as if they have the right to tell us to feed our baby in a public bathroom stall -- gross! -- if we don't have the support of our husbands, boyfriends, mothers, sisters, brothers, fathers and friends... there is no way that we'll be able to overcome the pressure to pull out a bottle.

So the next time you see a woman nursing an infant in public, smile at her. Tell her "Good for you!" The more support a breastfeeding mother has, the better chance she'll have of continuing to nurse throughout infancy and perhaps even into toddler hood. Maybe she'll be lucky enough to go to bed one night and ask her almost three-year-old if he's ready to nurse and have him respond lovingly with, "No, Mommy. I don't need milkies anymore. I just want you to hold my hand."

This article was written by Erica Rutherford, a fan of Natural Pregnancy Mentor

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Dangerous Midwife or Safe Midwife?

This post was written by Carla Hartley:

The admonishments to stop rocking the boat never end, but as I have said many times, while I sit still, someone drowns. I cannot stay silent. Midwives are human. They are fallible. They are NOT perfect. If they are hurting mammas and babies, they are dangerous. Period. Knowing what I know and staying silent would mean I am guilty of aiding and abetting what I consider to be criminal behavior.

I am in a position to hear about all kinds of midwives, all kinds of apprenticeships, and all kinds of information about childbirth educators and doulas. A big part of the enormous amount of e-mails, texts and calls I receive every day have something to do with dangerous midwifery practices.

Some of these include use of cytotec and pitocin to induce labor....and not just in the traditional ways. Some I heard about today curled my hair.

What would you think about midwives who are injecting pitocin directly into the lower uterine segment, having mothers drink incredibly dangerous induction cocktails which I consider a recipe for disaster, using a ventouse in a birth center, applying pitocin directly onto or INTO the cervix, showing up to births self-medicated, making all moms lie flat on their backs, yelling at moms to push, telling husbands to hold their wives down while she manually dilates, have a 50% transport rate, have an almost 100% incidence of tears "requiring" suturing, manual removals of placentas on a regular basis...and more.

I mean this is stuff that makes you vomit if you allow yourself to imagine witnessing it. This is NOT happening in hospitals, it is happening in homes, birth centers and midwives' offices.

I feel especially sad for a mom who has suffered abuse at the hands of a woman who calls herself a midwife. It is worse than if it were from a doctor in a hospital. We almost expect to have to fight for our rights in that environment, but at home, or in a birth center? The assumption is that midwives are the "guardians" of normal birth. (That is not what I think at all, but a general assumption touted by midwives on a regular basis.) Women assume that they are safe in a midwife's care, so when the midwife acts in another manner, they are unprepared and blind sided.

When it is a mother calling or e-mailing me, the question is often, what should I do and who should I tell? I don't discourage any mom from doing what she wants about the abuse she has suffered, but I do try to make a case for a better way to ensure that fewer women will be in the position she found herself in. Yes, reporting to NARM if the midwife is a CPM, or to the licensing board if she is licensed, might have some effect, but more often I am told it does not. Lawyers could be called, doctors can be called, government officials can be called. But I don't think that is the answer and would just make things worse for midwives who are innocent of these kinds of charges.

I am not convinced that we can...... nor that we should.... police birth workers, anyway. I think the better option is to educate parents and encourage them to expect the best out of those they choose to hire.

Yes, there are dangerous midwives, and I am completely alarmed by how many more I have heard in just the last year, alone. And by more, I mean an alarming number of dangerous midwives and an alarming number of egregious acts against women and babies. Every time I think I have heard it all, some new "trick" is pointed out to me. It breaks my heart and it makes my bood boil at the same time.

I am not guessing or gossiping. And furthermore, I am just telling you one tiny tip of the iceberg of what has been told to me just THIS month by very reliable sources.

This is the stuff that keeps me up at night. I believe I know EXACTLY how this has happened, but this is not that note (but boy oh boy is it coming).

I want to address what I think is an appropriate response concerning dangerous midwifery practices. Not only do I think that it is NOT our job to eliminate the dangerous midwives, I don't think we can. What I think we CAN do is help women learn what a SAFE midwife would be. If they know that, then they will know who to look for.

I am convinced that the only way to eliminate a dangerous midwife is to educate parents so that they ask the right questions and choose their birth attendant carefully. After a while, the dangerous midwives' business will decrease and people will be choosing someone else. Then she will have to decide to change or quit. That works in all kinds of service industries, in manufacturing, in retail and in aviation. My husband was a prominent figure in general aviation. He knew of many scoundrel competitors, but he also was wise enough to know that he had no power to eliminate them. Instead, he invested a lot more time and effort into educating his customers on what they should expect from businesses who cared about safety. He conducted seminars and wrote articles for the FAA and for aviation schools. His efforts were successful and many of the businesses with less than ethical practices were soon out of business. He never named names, he just concentrated on customer education and honest public relations. Consumers who are well informed make better decisions.

Some will argue that credentialing and licensing eliminates dangerous midwives. As you know, I disagree.

Licensure does not eliminate dangerous midwives, in fact it is more likely to nurture them. At least 90% of the horror stories coming to me are about....you guessed it....CPMs and/or licensed midwives. (I have to take a deep breath here and NOT go into a diatribe about why that is true.)

Even if a midwife is not guilty of any of the abuses I told you about earlier, licensing seriously compromises the integrity of the midwife/client relationship. Once licensed, a midwife is in a contractual agreement with the state about every client she takes. Think about that.

According to that agreement, she may no longer do what the mother wants if it would put her in noncompliance with the original contract. Many midwives tell me that becoming licensed has changed them in one of two ways: either they now practicing CYA midwifery and work according to the dictates of their license OR they have become a good liar. When Colorado midwives went for "registration" and one of the first ones to do that was one of my long time students. She called me in tears, telling me that she was no better a midwife for the paper, in fact she was not the person she had been. Now she lied on paperwork and lied for clients. "How," she asked, "will the parents know that I don't also like TO them?" She left midwifery not long after that.

A midwife who knew I was opposed to licensure called me in the early 90s to tell me that their midwifery organization really had no choice but to go for licensure in order to eliminate ONE particular dangerous midwife who they thought would not jump through the licensure hoops. But it backfired. Guess who was first. Licensure does not eliminate bad midwives.

Of course some midwives like licensure because it makes it legal for them to carry drugs and makes it easier for them to obtain third party reimbursement. After the stories of abuse I have heard, I have come to the conclusion that NO midwife should be carrying drugs. And I believe that the desire for third party reimbursement is the root of most of the problems that exist for midwifery today that were not an issue when I started. I am not convinced that either of those reasons hold water when it comes to making that choice. Hmm...."I can carry drugs but I have to say no to 30 or 40% of the women who want a home birth because when I opted for the ability to carry drugs, I signed away my option to legally assist a woman who has had a cesarean. But I do get paid by the insurance companies. " Not an acceptable trade-off.

I understand that some midwives cannot practice legally if they are not licensed....but they can still serve. That is until their sister midwives find out and turn them in to the state, which they are legally bound to do in some cases....or just because they can in others.

Licensure does not eliminate bad midwives nor can it assure good midwives. Again, if licensure requirements are as low as they are in most states, and if based on a medical paradigm, which most are, we are not producing safe midwives with that process. A piece of paper granting a credential is NOT assurance of safety. A thorough and applicable education is more likely to assure a safe midwife.

Having helped women become midwives for thirty years, and having been in the middle of this conversation for longer than that, I have definite ideas about what the definition of dangerous midwife is, but I want to start with what I think is more likely to produce a safe midwife.

I am thinking of some midwives I know who I would trust with my daughter's or daughter in law's births. They have attributes and attitudes that make me believe that they are SAFE midwives. I want women to look for a safe midwife, and hopefully, they will avoid the dangerous ones.

A safe midwife is one who knows her place....that is she knows that the mamma owns the birth and she does not. She has no illusions of grandeur about saving women or babies from birth. She is comfortable in her role as consultant, rather than authority.

A safe midwife knows that privilege and responsibility are not two separate issues, and that most of her work, in today's world, is to help women embrace both. That means that a midwife's job is to help the women find the information she needs and help her believe that she is capable of understanding and applying all of it.

A safe midwife wants to serve women who don't automatically default to the midwife's opinion. She hopes that women would question her and ask for sources and logic. The safe midwife wants to serve strong smart women who make the investment in preparation and feel good about their choices.

A safe midwife knows everything there is about normal birth so that she can recognize any subtle change and make appropriate recommendations the minute there is a deviation. That is, if the deviation starts to become a complication, which most deviations never do, so she would mostly just stay quiet.

A safe midwife is teachable. and humble. She is open to the possibility that she may have been basing her beliefs and practices on flawed information. She is willing to admit anything that she has been doing could be and have been wrong — and CHANGE IT.

A safe midwife is more likely to be one who views birth from the mother's point of view rather than her own, so that she never forgets that she has the potential to impact the mother and baby in ways that will last their lifetime.

A safe midwife keeps the calling in mind so that attending birth doesn't ever just become a job, as my friend Ashley reminded me a few days ago. If a midwife doesn't LOVE what she does, she is less likely to be a safe midwife.

A safe midwife recognizes the inherent safety in the natural biological function we call birth. She doesn't expect a complication to be lurking around every corner, but she is prepared for the very very rare times one is.

A safe midwife would not panic if her gadgets and gizmos didn't make it to a birth with her. She could still do her job without them.

A safe midwife looks to the science of birth rather than what the community standard of practice is. She holds every trick or procedure that her peers are using up to the scrutiny of physiology.

A safe midwife desires something for the mother and baby that goes beyond safety. If she desires THAT, she will be less likely to interfere in the name of safety.

A safe midwife is safe by intention. She makes a hundred decisions a day that etermine whether she is the kind of midwife I described first or this kind of midwife.

And you know I can leave the topic of safety without my signature definition: Hanzoffa, Hanzoutta, Mouthshutta!




Carla Hartley is a friend, a midwife, a defender of mammas and birth...she is also the owners of Ancient Art Midwifery Institute and the founder of Trust Birth.

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